Friday, April 2, 2010

People suck.

I was going to write a witty little piece on bunny rabbits, but realized that it wasn't going the direction I planned. Rather than the fuzzy little Easter Bunny angle, it was quickly swerving into boiled rabbit territory. So I scrapped it. Maybe tomorrow.

A local girl went missing Sunday, and apparently the police didn't even start their search until about Tuesday. Despite how strange I think that it, the thing that really bothers me are the people who comment on the related articles published on the news web page. Sometimes, I wonder if allowing people to comment on articles is really a good thing. Hiding behind an anonymous icon seems to give people all kinds of freedom to be cruel and say the most incredibly hurtful things. This is a 12 year old girl, for godsake, missing for almost a week and "adults" reading these articles find it completely appropriate to make comments about how easy it should be to find her because of her weight, and how they should follow the grease trail. They find it appropriate to criticize the mother and judge her parenting skills, to call her a "loser" because she doesn't have transportation for her children. I hate to break it to them, but even us poor folk love our children. Then they pat themselves on the back and applaud their good parenting because they're "not out looking" for their children.  It makes me physically ill. I had to stop reading them because I was seriously getting sick. There is a desperate family out there, searching for their missing child and instead of offering their assistance to the search, these self-described excellent parents are sitting at their computers, insulting a little girl and her family.

I hope they never know the pain that the Wilson family is facing. And I hope she comes home safe. I can't imagine the horror.

44 comments:

Erin said...

I agree with you completely. The comments on those kinds of things really blow me away sometimes.

I am keeping the family in my thoughts and prayers.

Angela said...

I was JUST talking to my husband about this today.

I'd read an article on a CNN blog about one of Madonna's former managers or something passing away suddenly the other day. And then I read the comments. Grown people saying "Who cares? How many other people died that day and they're not on CNN?"

I think I'd read some comments about the woman's weight and appearance as well. Her body isn't even cold yet.

Couldn't believe it.
I think we should scrap commenting on news stories.

Don't even read the ones on that little girl who killed herself up in MA after the bullying episodes. People are CRUEL.

Molly said...

I don't even know why they allow comments sometimes.

Susan Fobes said...

I don't know the story but I don't do well when I read about something happening to a kid.

I agree with you about commenting and how some can voice their opinion so freely when it's done in an almost anonymous fashion. The fact is though, that all comments, anonymous or not, can be traced back to an individual computer-it's called a digital footprint.

Shell said...

It is like people think they can be rude and mean and nasty b/c they are anonymous, never thinking about the family who is reading it.

Something happened in my husband's family last year and when it was in the papers, all the comments....I had to stop reading because my blood would boil every time I'd read a new one.

Chocolate Covered Daydreams said...

I hate reading news comments for that very reason. Focus is lost on people arguing back and forth without truly empathizing for the family of the little girl missing.

I'm praying that she is found, safe and sound.

Brian Miller said...

oh my...missing kids are heartbreaking...i do hope they find her soon and all is well!

CRAZYMOM said...

This is just terrible. So very very scary and then to add insult to injury. There is no excuse. Some people are just mean-spirited cowards. No wonder you were not in the mood to write about bunnies. I hope your weekend gets better. And I hope the girl is found safe.

Lanita said...

It would have to be the most horrendous experience imaginable...having a missing child and then to add insult to injury, have to deal with the asinine comments people feel the need to make. Some articles should just be closed to comments in respect to the families.

Buckeroomama said...

I hope the little girl gets found soon.

That one girl said...

I'm assuming you are talking about the Greely girl. Sooo sad. I'm can't handle all the missing kid stories anymore. :(

And, people do suck on comments. I don't read comments on news stories, people are just too annoying.

Unknown Mami said...

I am astounded by the nonchalance and cruelty.

Willoughby said...

That poor family. I hope the girl is found safe and well.

I'm not surprised by the comments you read. People really do suck. When my BIL died, people left the most awful comments after the news article about him. It made me sick to read them.

Farila said...

The worst fear for me ever is to have a child go missing... I cannot even imagine the horror of it. I get nightmares at times that I have lost my baby girl and I cannot get over it for few days. My sympathies are there with her family and prayers that the little girl get back to her people soon and safe.

panamamama said...

Oh how awful. It always surprises me how people can be so mean in cyberspace. I hope she is safe.

Bossy Betty said...

A missing child is hideous enough, but adding to the family's woes? Come on!

Barbara said...

God bless the girl and her family.

Danielle said...

The cruelty and heartlessness of people in general never ceases to amaze me! Hope the little girl is found soon!

Homemaker Man said...

People suck. That's about the long and the short of it. To some degree, people are just emotionally castrated, so when confronted by something like this, they react in the worse possible way. Which I think I covered when I said people suck.

AngieB said...

You are so right. I used to have a local news station's website as my Homepage, but the comments people would make about news stories really disturbed me. So now I know nothing about current events, but I'm much happier. It's a good trade-off.

Chantel said...

Sometimes people really do suck. I think that in a situation like this they should turn comments off. There are probably family member of this poor child out there reading these articles and then they have to see strangers out there saying such hurtful things. It's awful. This family is in my thoughts.

Amo said...

Yes, us poor folk really do love our children...so much it hurts. People can be unbelievably cruel when they are trying to make themselves feel better about their own behaviors. Some people associate having money with how much you love your children. If you don't have a lot of money to provide the extras for your kids, then you must not love them very much. Couldn't be further from the truth.

Mrsblogalot said...

I can't even believe that people would even have the nerve to give any other comment than a prayer and wishes for the child's safe return. Unbelievable and you are right, I hope they never know the excruciating pain of the loss of a child.

Alyssa said...

I don't know the story but any missing child is devastating. How people can think they are above human suffering and tragedy is beyond me. Some people apparently lack not only insight but empathy. It saddens me for the way they are raising their children. Makes you wonder why the "next generation" never grows more compassionate...

r u s s said...

About the Anonymous comment, what you said about it is true. For some reason, it gives whoever some degree of power. On the other hand, if we think about it, a lot of people are also cowards. It's either they say what they really feel when they're intoxicated or when they're "unknown". It's sad though, but that's human nature. I wish people would be more caring.

Matty said...

Anonymity makes people brave. They hide behind their computers and let loose with things they would never say publicly. I can't even imagine the feelings of my child disappearing. It's just awful. I hope for the best.

brainella said...

Matty is right. It's really kind of sad that people would be that horrid when a child's life is on the line. I hope that little girl is okay; I cannot imagine what that family is going through.

Michele said...

I could not agree with you more.
My stomach flipped just reading this.
How horrible for the family, and the poor missing girl.
Hopefully she is home safe and sound soon.

You're right ~ some people just suck!!!!

MP said...

You absolutely summed it up: people suck. But not you. Bravo on this piece.

mackt_gattis1115 said...

I do like ur article~!!! ........................................

When did I become my Mom said...

I don't understand that behaviour and it makes me sick too. I saw it a lot after the Haiti earthquakes too... Praying she is found safe.

Tattoos and Teething Rings said...

This is tragic on many levels. I think news blogs/sites need to weed out those kinds of comments and do away with "Anonymous" posting.

Dazee Dreamer said...

That just makes me sick. I live on the rule, what goes around, comes around. Really people. Where is your compassion. Every man, woman, and child are worth something. Thanks for the article.

mudmama said...

Totally agree. What must these people be thinking to be so cruel and insensitive???

Juliana said...

Do not even get me started on this. AUGH. I cannot stand the selfishness of some people. I really cannot. Maybe I am the person who goes to other extremes, wants to save the world and really think that I can. But, it bothers me how many people are not effected by stuff around them unless it is happening directly to them.

I am very sad about this story and I went to school at UNC. I walked around those apartments and that mall. I have friends with small children who live nearby. Seriously everyone should make this their problem...because it really is.

Alyna said...

I've actually seen this sort of thing before and it horrifies me. The idea that people actually not only have the time to leave a comment like that but the heart (or lack thereof) to spread that kind of negativity...it makes me so sad. :-( I hope that little girl comes home safe and sound and soon!

supepome said...

Urgh, I was just thinking about this myself the other week. Three people fell to their deaths from a tower block in the UK - and because they happened to be asylum seekers the comments were full of things like 'three less scroungers', 'when are the rest going to jump', 'good riddance' and general hateful bigotry. What a disgrace to humanity.

Abigail@http://abigailscraftshowto.com

Double Wide Mom said...

Its absolutely shocking what people think is Okay to say. Very little of what crosses our minds should be spoken aloud. This is horrible and my prayers are with this family.

Kara @ His, Hers and Ours said...

You nailed it on the head. Some people just plain suck. And I think, in articles such as that, there should be no comments allowed, sadly, due to all the hateful people.

I hope she comes home soon. Safe and sound.

Irena said...

This is certainly the worst thing that could happen to a parent:( I'll pray for the family and for her safely return.And yes, it's horrible when people lack any symphaty...

Gille said...

I just got so sick reading that! People can be so cruel. The last thing this family should be worried about is how rude the public is. That's just wrong. I hope her family is doing ok and really hope she gets home soon.

Home's Where My Heart Is said...

I couldn't agree more with you. I think it's wrong to allow comments because like you said, people hide behind the icon and make filthy and insensitive comments like you described. It's absolutely heartbreaking this girl has gone missing; I hope and pray they find her. I was disgusted to read what people were saying about her. So sad.

I am stopping by from SITS today (congrats on being featured!!) and scrolled down and caught this post.

Hope you have a great day!!

Erin
http://homeswheremyheartis.blogspot.com

Adriana said...

could not agree with you more.
(stopping by from sits)

LivingInspired said...

I can't read idiot's comments. My husband used to work as a moderator for a news organization and the things he saw were truly herendous. That's the problem with the internet, ANYONE can write whatever they want. I can't believe you read those things! Don't you wish there was a virtual "slap directly in face" option?

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