Friday, December 11, 2009

Letter to my younger self

I desperately want a Wii fit. But I can't afford one. So, in an effort to win the giveaway that Chocolate Covered Daydreams is hosting,I wrote a letter to my younger self. This is my entry...


Dear Younger Self,

Ok, first off, I wanted to tell you that it gets better. Really it does. French kissing is not supposed to make you want to throw up. I think it had something to do with the food in his mouth. If it makes you feel any better, you never kiss him again and believe it or not, in a few years, you will find yourself in a constant lip lock with one particular member of the opposite sex (no, you don’t know him yet) and you will like it. A lot. No worries there. (So yes, you do like men. But let's try to not like them quite so much, ok?)

About the move...I know that right now, you feel like it’s the most terrible thing mom and dad can do to you. But trust me, it will be a very good thing. I promise. You will meet a lot of amazing new people; people that will change your life forever. (And anyway, in several years “social networking” will be all the rage. Someone will invent a thing called “facebook” and you’ll be able to reconnect to all the people you left behind. And raise pigs and join the mafia, but I digress.) At the new school you’ll meet the girl who will become your very best friend (and one of your favorite people to this day). You also meet the kissing boy that I mentioned.

I’m not going to lie and say it will all be rainbows and kittens. You will have a few issues to contend with, but they will all leave you with a better understanding of your fellow human and a better understanding of yourself. And despite the cliche, they really do make you a better person.

But just a tip..do not “go out” with the first guy that asks you. It’s a mistake. Trust me. Oh, and while in the locker room, always, always make sure that the locker above you is closed before standing up. It will save you a trip to the nurse. Also, always make sure that the hem of your skirt is not tucked into your panties when leaving the restroom. That will save you quite a bit of embarrassment.

I’d like to tell you to not take that “year” off from college, because you don’t end up going back. But I know if you had gone back, you wouldn’t have got the job you did, you wouldn’t have met the man you married and you wouldn’t have had your three beautiful kids. And I have to tell you, where you are now is a great place to be. I wouldn’t trade it fer all the edukashon in the world.

But I will tell you that when someone close confides in you, do not betray that confidence. It will be something you regret for the rest of your life.

I want you to know that you’re doing ok. You really are. Looking back, I’m proud of the girl you are, the girl that I was. I’d have changed the hairstyle and dumped a few of those outfits (the whole sock-with-pantyhose-hiking-boots-skirt look should have gone, same with that off the shoulder denim top you used to like so much) but really, all in all, you’re going to be ok. You’re going to infuriate your parent’s with some of your choices. They will have been right to doubt you, but I’m not going to tell you not to make them. You’ve learned something valuable from every single one of those decisions. They’ve made you who you are today. And really, that’s not a bad thing. Of course, it would nice to not have all those negative signs in the checkbook. So, you know, if you get a chance, you could learn a little bit about money laundering or something. Just kidding.

Sort of.

Anyway, enjoy each day because it will fly by. One day you’ll wake up and your own children will be screeching at you for something or another and you’ll pause and thank your mom for not beating you as a child. After you have kids, you’ll see what an herculean effort that took.

And believe it or not, your brother is going to be one of your best friends. So don't throw that chunk of concrete at him, ok?

See you soon.

Love,

Your Older (wiser, better looking, more stylish) Self

47 comments:

Chocolate Covered Daydreams said...

I loved your letter to your younger self. Thank God I'm not the one choosing because it's going to be a tough decision.

Wouldn't it be nice to really have the opportunity to receive a letter from your older self when you're younger?

Thank you for entering. Keep an eye out for the winner on Tuesday!

Denise @ Sunflowers, Chocolate and Little Boys said...

This is AWESOME! I wish we could all write letters and send them back in time. The world might just be a happier place if we could. Right?

GrammieMommy said...

okay, this is a cool post. i read every word and i bet you had a great time looking back.
You've got a fun blog, i'm glad i have the privilege of reading it :)
Have a great weekend!

r u s s said...

Beautiful Letter :)
I'd want to write one for myself too. I hope you win the giveaway, that will be the bomb. Goodluck dear.

Mandy said...

Love it! What a great letter!

Brian Miller said...

what a great letter...i know this is a tangent, but i wonder what our youger selves would think of facebook...throwing concrete at your brother, ouch...really there is some great stuff in here once i got passed the food in the mouth french kiss...yuck!

Sunday said...

What a great letter! I think perhaps you have inspired me to write one of my own. But, I won't try to win the Wii Fit. I actually have one and while I have not used it in ages my older son, husband, and all our friends love it so they would probably be peeved if I boxed it up and sent it to you. Even though that was the first thing I considered doing after reading your post.

I hope you win!

Amo said...

OH, the things I would love to tell my younger self. I could have saved myself a lot of heartache. A lot. But, I learned a lot through that heartache. I think. I don't know. I've lost a lot of brain cells in motherhood, so I'm hoping I don't repeat history.

Amy said...

I hope you win the wii. What a great post! I love the letter to yourself. I love that you didn't want to change anything, but did give a head's up. What wisdom.

mudmama said...

Good luck! That was awesome and touching. So many seemingly "bad" decisions turn out somehow to be for the best

UberGrumpy said...

Great letter, great post. I loved the french kissing lessons!

Tattoos and Teething Rings said...

I really enjoyed this letter. I've thought of posting a similar letter, but I have a hard time making it rated PG...

Matty said...

This is so neat. I should try it too. If only we could see into the future at that age.

otin said...

That was priceless! I can relate to the moving part. We were all over when I was a kid. I left friends behind a couple of times.

French kissing with food, eww!

Amanda said...

Great letter. You were so nice to yourself!

I would have yelled at myself.

blueviolet said...

That makes me wish you really had received the letter!

Shannon said...

Perfect! You should so win!!!! Hands down!

Sarah said...

This is so moving! And I completely agree that you should win.

Unknown Mami said...

I hope you win, that was wonderful. I learned a lot about you.

The Waylaid Wordsmith said...

My Wii Fit hasn't been used in close to a year for anything other than something fun for the baby to stand on. Maybe I should try to get more exercise.

I like your letter and hope you win. If not, consider relocating just a tad north and you can come over and use mine anytime you want. I'll crack open a bottle of workout vodka and everything.

--Tumbleweed said...

So your parents told you your brother would be your best friend, too? I wonder if that's a stock line. I know I'm already waiting to say it to my daughter.

Although I couldn't fathom it when I was young, in my case it also turned out to be true. Funny how things work out.

Great blog -- I love your title and your punny name.

Molly said...

I've often looked back at times in my life and thought about doing it differently. But then, as you said, I wouldn't be here now with my husband and my kids, can't imagine life without them! : )

brainella said...

OH my. If only we could! If I knew then what I know now... :)

Jess @ Frugal with a Flourish said...

It is amazing the perspective you have with hindsight isn't it! I can't wait to understand what this past year has meant! Great letter!

Seraffyn said...

I really enjoyed this post. I like your writing so well. I am inspired to write a similar letter. I hope you don't mind. I'm blogging to help find my writer's voice again, and I sometimes need inspiration. I found it today!

Angie Muresan said...

I truly hope you win that wii. When you find out some info on that money laundering bit, please share.

Flory said...

I love the raw emotion of this letter to self. Wonderful read! Like Seraffyn, I'll be using this idea, maybe not for my blog, but a great way to find your "voice".

kys said...

I loved you letter! I would tell myself many of the same sorts of things. I hope you win!

Stina said...

What a great letter you put together:-) Thinking back to when I was a little girl, and trying to put together a letter (I won't even know where to beginning)...

Have a great day:-):-):-)

Betty Manousos:cutand-dry.blogspot.com said...

I love your letter! That is so well-written and witty and emotional!
And too optimistic!
hugs hugs

Working Mommy said...

LOVE this!! I need to write one of these as well!

~WM

Elizabeth said...

Gah, please never quit posting. I can always count on a laugh when you do write :)

Busted Kate said...

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Congrats!

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Come to my blog-I have an award for yoU! :)

Sweet Mama Jones said...

What an awesome letter! And I want to thank you for sharing the link and inspiring me to go for it too. :)
I have no idea how they will choose from all the very cool letters...so far everyone has made an impression on me!

Christie O. said...

i loved this letter SO.MUCH. I laughed, I cried, it was better than Cats!

Seriously.

I outbursted with the locker thing, I can't tell you how many times I cursed that rusty corner and new hole in my head!

And I kissed a guy who would bite me while making out. He was so hot. Totally ruined it for me and he was nicknamed "the biter" in my little circle of friends forevermore.

Isn't it funny how our windy roads that sometimes seem like a wrongway street at the time and even in hindsight turn out to be the way we were supposed to go anyway? If that makes any sense..

Christie O. said...

ps. hope you win the Wii. It really does rock.

Conquer The Monkey said...

Wow, that was a really lovely letter.

and I'm especially glad you told younger you that the nasty first french kisses do get better. those were dire days !! :)

Erin said...

This had me in stitches. I did something similar a few months back, but yours is so much better. The only thing missing is an old pic of you!!

;-)

CynthiaK said...

That was brilliant. Loved it. Wish I had gotten a letter like that when I was younger...sigh...
:)

Deidra said...

This is awesome! I wish you had known my younger self. I'd have you write to her, too!

Sweet Mama Jones said...

CONGRATS! You totally earned it!! :)

Elisa said...

I just found your blog, and what an awesome first post to read! Love the letter to your younger self.

I have just been thinking the last few days about something similar, and talking about with with my best friend: if I had known then what I know now, what would have I done differently?

maybe I should write one of these too and get it off my chest ;-)

My name is PJ. said...

I read this letter when Simone posted it on Chocolate Covered Daydreams and it's precisely what brought me over here. I'm so glad I discovered you!

Hi! Nice to meet ya! I'm your newest follower? What's you hot beverage of choice?

Holly said...

I love that letter. I would have given the Wii Fit to you just for the french Kissing paragraph. This reminds me of the Brad Paisley song...that I cannot remember the name of (A Letter to Me?..I think)

Widge said...

This is brilliant!!! well worth the wining wii! Well done!

Clueless_Mama said...

I am so excited for you that you WON! You should have too. This is such a great letter. Boy, I would have loved to be able to send one of these to myself. Oh well, like you said we turned out okay. Thanks for this great post.

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