Thursday, October 15, 2009
To my mom...
The best thing in life is giving birth to your best friend.
When I graduated high school my mom gave me a silver locket inscribed with those words. That sums up our relationship perfectly. My mom is always the first one I call when I have exciting news or I need someone to talk to, or when I need a shoulder to cry on. We talk daily, sometimes twice a day. The day just doesn't feel right without that phone call. My brother and I have this strange way of accidentally calling her at the same time. If the phone is busy, it's because my brother got through first. I can only hope that I have the same relationship with my children when they are grown. My husband talks to his mom maybe once a month, my brother and I talk to our mom daily.
I can talk to her about anything and everything. There isn't anything off limits. She is the kind of mom that I strive to be.
Growing up, of course things weren't always smooth going. Fortunately, I have a terrible memory and I can't remember most of it. However, she does claim that I didn't speak to her for an entire year when I was about 13. Apparently if I had something to say to her, I would tell me dad. I must have been a beastly child. When I imagine myself as the mom and my daugher as that 13 year old, it breaks my heart. Mom, I'm so sorry.
As a teenager I thought she was completely unreasonable with her 2:00am curfew. Now, I think that was pretty generous. I get a little nervous thinking of my children out and about into the wee hours of the morning. I think their curfew is going to be closer to 10:00pm.
I remember being so embarassed when we had the safe sex talk. Now, I'm so thankful that she was able to be so open and trusting. I now know that's how I want to approach that subject with my children.
She didn't yell when I came home from a date with my shirt on inside out.
When I was 18 she made herself perfectly clear on how she felt about me dating a man 10 years older than myself, but never forbade me leaving the house to met him.
She told it how it was and let me decide whether or not I was going to listen and take her advice.
And eventually, I did.
She's a fun grandma...
And a beautiful woman...
And I'm so lucky to have her. She's made me the woman and mom, I am today. Thanks mom! :)