Monday, October 5, 2009

Bad Mommy Award!

Ahh...sitting here in the silence of a quiet house. The only sound is the keyboard clackety-clack and the clink of my spoon in my bowl of ice cream. (The second bowl of ice cream, but who is counting? I mean really? Besides me? I don't feel guilty. No, I don't. You were counting, weren't you?!) Anyway...yes. Two bowls of Schwan's Chocolate Chip ice cream.

I'm addicted to the stuff. It's so, so good. I told the Schwan's guy that I think they put nicotine in it so people keep buying it. He assured me that it's just the extra cream. He takes his job very seriously. Tonight, I couldn't wait for the kids to go to bed so I could have a bowl of the stuff. I'm like an addict, shaking, looking at the clock, sneaking around the kitchen, trying not to make any noise. Mmmm, mmmm good.

Then, BAM, the entire upstairs floor shakes. I jump up, my heart pounding. Earthquake? Tornado? Did our roof cave in?

No.

The baby fell out of bed. Out of our bed, which is about 4 feet off of the ground. It sits really high and he just rolled out. I already know I'm a bad parent because I let him sleep with me...I've heard the lectures from the pediatrician and read the warnings in the books. But I like him sleeping with me...and he's never, ever fallen out before. Ever. After he falls asleep I will leave him laying in the middle of the huge bed and come down to write, or work on bills. (hahaha...) But he fell off the bed.

Why do kids do that? What kind of sense do adults have, that kids don't, that keep them from falling out of bed? Is it something that comes with puberty, that ability to stay in bed and not roll off the side? What is it??

So, I feel like a bad mom. I feel terrible. I'm sitting at the computer, stuffing my face with ice cream and my child falls out of bed. I'm lucky he wasn't hurt. Scared me though, because when I ran upstairs, he was just laying there. He didn't start crying until I picked him up.

Bad, bad mommy.

Blogging and ice cream will be my downfall. Oh, and DS Scrabble. I'm doomed.

25 comments:

Michele said...

Okay.. first of all, you are not a bad mommy!!!! On all counts in this blog I have done the same. Only I didn't have to go back for seconds of ice cream, I just sat at my computer with the whole bucket and a spoon.
Being a single mother, Trinity slept with me most of the time when she was a baby, and yes, she has fallen out many times. One time, she didn't even wake up ~ she just curled up and kept on sleeping. LOL
I know the guilt you feel, but don't let it get to you. You are an amazing mother!!!
And, as far as it being a bad idea for your child to sleep with you, I say phooey. Trinity sleeps on her own just fine now. She still comes in for a "snuggle" every once in a while, and I think it's wonderful for them to feel that kind of security!
You go.. have some more ice cream, keep writing these amazing posts, and keep snuggling with your little one!!

Michele

Stacey said...

What makes you a wonderful mommy and a better one than me, is that you just fessed up! I won't blog about how I sometimes forget to change my non-verbal son's diaper when he wakes in the morning, because he can't remind me to. Or how my 8 year old sometimes has to go to school with mismatched socks because I was too tired the night before to match them. Now I really don't like myself. lol
*I've now become your newest blog groupie.

Veronica Lee said...

I definitely DO NOT agree that you're a bad mommy!! I think you're the greatest and I'm giving you an award. Grab the 'Mom of the year' award from my right sidebar!!

~*Michelle*~ said...

If that makes you a bad mommy.....then I am the worst mommy of the year. I am pretty sure all four of my children have fallen out of our bed at some point in their lives. EEK! (thinking I would have learned after the first one or two)

Love your honesty.....and funny you just wrote about this. I just posted about being the "NOT so mommy of the year" yesterday too.

Neva said...

Babies and Mommies go together! Those who don't sleep with their babies are missing out on some Supa Dupa Snuggle Time!
And if it helps relieve some guilt, my baby, who slept with us, woke us up one morning being extremely cute and playful. We laid there with her crawling all over us, giggling with her. Then she stood up, just learned that, grabbing onto the bed rail for support. Then her top heavy self leaned and flipped right over it. Plunk, scream. It was awful!! Poor baby. Nursed her, alleviated her pain, and felt horrible but she didn't cry for long.

Rianna and Eli s Mommy said...

Are you my lost twin sister? schwanns chocolate chip icecream is the best... i have to agree with the first poster, why dirty a bowl when you can eat straight from the carton! :)

Don't feel too bad about the bed thing, Eli has fallen off of beds multiple times, it only hurt his pride :) Once he even fell head first! The last time, he was still sleeping when I went in the room...

The Waylaid Wordsmith said...

I'm a chocolate Haagen Dazs kind of girl, myself. ;)

My dear son is such a wiggly, roaming sleeper that he's fallen out several times...including while I'm in there with him, asleep. :(

I took our bed off the frame and put the mattress and box spring on the floor to avoid future guilt trips.

I think I actually get the Bad Mommy award because this morning I woke up in bed alone, thinking fuzzily that something wasn't quite right. What could that be. I could hear my husband in the shower across the hall, which means...ah, where the hell is my baby?!

Sitting in the middle of the bedroom floor playing with a cell phone he stole from the nightstand. Sigh. This is why my bedroom door is gated at all times...he's the sneakiest child I've ever met.

Long comment to mostly say...I'm glad he's okay, and don't feel bad!

JennyMac said...

awww...you are not a bad mommy at all...not a bit...

and to be honest..this happened to me once. I was sick over it...for days.

Big hug being sent your way..and a cocktail. It won't go well with ice cream but sounds like you need one.

That One Mom said...

Bad mommy my foot! Every kids falls out of bed, I wish I knew why, too. It's not like at some point in our lives someone teaches us how to not fall out... Weird...

Anyway, keep up the good work. Keep hiding the ice cream(it's bad for the kids anyway!) and let go of the guilt!!

blueviolet said...

You are not a bad mom at all!!! My baby rolled off my couch once when I was sitting right there and I felt guilty forever! I had guardrails up on my kids beds and they STILL fell out so it doesn't matter. They'll find a way to do it! lol

Nicole said...

My little one slipped off the couch while we were taking a nap. I felt like the worst mom ever. She only cried for like 2 seconds though so I know she was ok, but I still felt awful! I think I cried more than she did!

Ice cream is such a comfort food, I love it.

Amo said...

You are not a bad mommy!! When my son was about two or three months old, my husband left him sleeping on the couch and then left the room! When he returned, our son was lying on the floor. He had rolled off the couch and he wasn't making noise either. It was scary, but he was fine. It happens! Enjoy your time alone and eat that ice cream!

Schelle said...

Hmmm since I've just met you, I possibly should not confess that both a) both my sons sleep in my bed - aged 3 & 1 - the three year old technically has his own bed, but it is pushed right up beside mine to make one big bed, just at a slightly lower level lol, b) both my sons have rolled off the bed - on numerous occasions, due to my inattention, an 18" drop onto a hardwood floor, resulting in some heartbreaking bruises & screams & guilt c) both boys are still alive, still love me, and have now learned well and truly to get out of bed FEET FIRST, and d) I am petrified that next time I will have a petite little girl instead of my hefty great sons with unbreakable bone structure and solid skulls...

(I followed Lunhatikk here... would love to stay and read more but my procrastination break is well and truly over, so I'll just say "Nice to meet you!")

Frugal Vicki said...

If it makes you feel any better, my daughter fell out of bed TWICE the other night. After she fell out the first time, I laid her on my chest to calm down and I fell asleep. And she fell out again. Ooops.

Nina Say said...

My baby has fallen off the bed before, and I know how that guilty feeling can get you down. But don't let it. Babies are built strong, even though they don't seem like it.

Janie B said...

Ohhh...poor baby...no...poor mommy. Baby will be fine. Mommy will feel bad. Don't worry--all is well.

Flory said...

You're not a bad mommy - it happens to the best of us. :) Now I have to go get a second bowl of ice cream. :)

Michelle said...

Well, if it makes you feel any better I actually bit my daughter's finger once, hard. Who does that? In an "attempt" to get her to sleep in her own bed I decided for the first few nights I'd sleep in her bed with her. But let's get real here. A few nights turned into a few years and now she usually ends up falling asleep on the sofa while Mommy works at the computer. Anway, while sleeping with her under our princess blankets, I was having a pretty vivid dream. Then this hand starts hovering over my face and I could of sworn it was the bad man in my dream coming to get me. What did my body do?? Bit the finger of my daughter. It completely woke me up and I was terribly startled. Startled eventually wore off to make way for huge guilt. I mean, I just bit my daughter's finger????

So I'd say you're doing just fine! Off to go grab some ice cream! We've got Cake Batter ice cream!

Just me said...

Oh! The poor little one! You didn't know so how could you have? Hope things go better tomorrow:)

Dang, I haven't had ice cream in five and a half months! Whew! Seriously, I barely made it through your post! LOL ;) Boy, does that ever look good!

SPEAKING FROM THE CRIB said...

kids fall down steps and out of beds it happens to all of us

jenie said...

hahaha!

1st comment: i have to get away from that ice cream!!! i love icecreams and im sure i'll get as addicted as you are the moment i take a tsp of it.

2nd comment: i guess you ought to start putting something to block the tossing and turnings of a growing kid =) glad he didn't get a broken something with that fall, still, dont you think you need to have his head checked form internal injuries? i heard of a mom who wasnt told by the carer that the kid have fallen not until after her kid started having convulsions days or weeks after(i cant recall)and the doctor did EEG's etc. not that im alarming you or sumthing...but i am a mom myself and cares for all kids since i myself gave birth.

3rd comment: im back to blogging, and i hope to see more of you again=)

4th comment: as always, i love your post...keep posting!

One Chic Mommy said...

Can I just say luckily we have a California king bed because up until 4mths ago all 5 of us were in one bed! It drove my husband nuts but he didn't get a say. My kids rooms are on the other side of the house for one and two I just like waking up and peaking over to check on them.

My son finally decided he would rather sleep in his own bed were he didn't wake up to someone's foot on his head. Of course my daughter had to follow her big brother so off to her room she went! Now my husband and I only have one kid in the bed with us.

I say all this to say you will not hear any lectures or calling you a bad parent from me because we're in the same boat.

I personally think it gives kids extra confidence to be able to decide when they are ready to sleep alone. I can't pay my son to get back in our bed.

Mom of Three said...

Girl, I let my baby sleep with me too. And within the past month she's fallen out of bed at least twice that I know of. And my bed is also really high off the ground. Thankfully I am a paranoid mother and have a mattress on the floor right next to the bed, so she fell on that and kept right on going. She woke up and crawled off the bed. The first time the mattress being there was totally an accident, because my son had slept there the night before and not 5 mins before I had intended to pick it up and stash it where it's supposed to go, but got distracted by something else. Lucky lucky lucky. I do hope your baby's ok.

Jill of All Trades said...

Not a bad mommy. Stuff just happens and you just can't blame yourself. Baby will be fine and so will you. Many, and I say MANY years ago my oldest (now 30) was sitting in a desk chair and I was standing next to it but she stood so quickly that I couldn't even catch her as she fell out and hit her head on the concrete floor. I was horror stricken but she was fine, thank goodness. A little goose egg and now she is a beautiful married lady who got her Master's degree last year. All will be fine. Take care.

Sarah said...

If that's the worst of it, this kid's pretty lucky lol. You seem great on all other accounts lol.

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